Are you feeling overburdened, chaotic, overworked and stressed all the time? I know you keep thinking “I just need to be more organized.” Is that the case, or do you just need to remove some unnecessary obligations? When you say “yes” to a new project, it is always important to consider your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health along with how the burden of less time will take its toll on your relationships.
When we neglect ourselves and our own needs on a continual basis, we harbor anger. In addition to all the negative side effects it has on our health, we also become very impatient for our loved ones. Next time you pat yourself on the back because you are around for your family all the time, it doesn’t always mean you are truly “present” for them. And they know it!!! You are trying to be a good role model for your children. Being tired, overweight, and on edge all the time because of self neglect is not setting a good example.
Create two lists. Your “Absolute Yes” list. Write down what tasks and projects are absolutely necessary to accomplish. And your “Absolute No” list. Such as what feelings of anxiety, pain, headaches, eating while standing at the counter, etc. am I not willing to “practice” anymore. And remember – revisiting these lists are important as new commitments are offered to you. Close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths and ask yourself how this new responsibility is resonating in my physical body. Pay attention to those warning signs in your body. If you are hyperventilating while thinking about it, chances are your intuition is telling you not to do it!!!
Good luck!!! All old habits take time to shift. One of my favorite books on this topic is called “The Art of Extreme Self-Care” by Cheryl Richardson.She is a very gifted writer. Be well!